Okay, I'm sorry, I messed up. I messed with chapter 1 post and ended up posting chapter 2 over chapter 1. DARN!
Here is a summary of what chapter 1 said...
Where Did Our Confidence Go?
In Song of Songs we get a glimpse into Solomon's wedding day. He discribes his bride as, "a lily among thorns..." (Song of Songs 2:2)
So, I wonder, what happened after the joy of that day? Did they ever have trouble in the bedroom?
Have you always/ever felt sexually confident?
Is this a mountain and valley issue for you? When have you experienced mountains? When have you experienced vallies?
(Based off Sylvia's e-mail on page 7) Does your husband have issues with sexual confidence? What do you do to boost his confidence?
What boosts your confidence?
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I feel sexual confident in my marriage. And my husband agrees I am confident but feels he isn't always, which is sad. Part of it is seasonal with the baby on the way and stress from school. He feels stressed with school work and getting everything done that he needs to do. I see sex as a great stress reliever and he doesn't always. I try and be very clear as to when I am feeling well and want to have sex so he will set aside that time from working to be with me.
ReplyDeleteNormally, I like my body but I'm in limbo on that feeling at the moment because currently I am incubating our little Tigger. I would totally get pregnant again just to have 1st trimester sex because it is awesome to so easily orgasm multiple times but 2nd trimester was icky. 3rd trimester is fun but I am often tired and it is difficult to move with so much weight in the front.
I think, a lot of my joy came from accepting Christ then I gained more confidence from getting married. It is so nice to know you are loved just for being yourself and not need to seek out attention from others.
What is it with multiple orgasms? It's something Bryan has wanted to try for a long time, but I just can't figure out how to make that work. Not that I've tried, but it just seems like when I'm done, I'm done! Did it work for you any other time than 1st trimester sex? I don't think multiple orgasms is a good enough motivation for us to get pregnant!
ReplyDeleteYou don't have to be pregnant to multiple. For me it happens most often if I'm just in a really good mood, if we are being a little adventurous, (oh, yeah) a full bladder often does it. It just takes a little patience and time on Rick's part. It is GREAT when it does happen.
ReplyDeleteNo, you don't have to be pregnant; the extra blood needed to be pregnant just helps out. Plus, I enjoy being close even more because we made this little person together.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree my mood has A LOT to do with it and a patient husband, which normally comes from already having had sex recently. Plus, if he is done doesn't have to mean you are. At first, multiple clitoral orgasms were easier than vaginal orgasms but now it doesn't seem to matter.
I have to have an empty bladder or I am paranoid. (...always best to jump on his side of the bed so he is stuck on the wet spot.) They just seem to get better because I get more relaxed after the first one. If I have only one crying is good, not being able to talk or move is the best but those are draining and I really just want to be done after that. Its nice not to have the same thing every time; poor guys, their bodies only do one thing.
Crying? I get giggly.
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