"Job loss, depression, and aging are all facts of life. They'll happen. The question is, how will you and your spouse handle them when they do?" (p 279)
"...97 percent of women say that, for them, sex is about the closeness." (p 282)
How do you show your husband that he is needed?
What do you do to keep your sex drive up or to increase it?
My husband lost his job. He was calm. I was not. I had trouble sleeping and was tense. He didn't really even want to tell me he lost his job which makes me really sad. (We had just moved and had only been here six months with two small children.)
ReplyDeleteI was very depressed after having Evie. My husband listened to me. I painted. I tried to get out of the house more. It was difficult. My husband knows I don't want to see a therapist. Yug. Have you met my brother? Would you want to tell him your problems? No. The author of this book specifically said to avoid seeing people like him and he is a therapist. People because therapists because they are problems.
We didn't yell at each other. We talk about stuff eventually when I want to say something. My husband just doesn't care about a lot of things. He just things there isn't a lot he can do to change situations.
p.282 Agree. I want to be close.
Eh. I'm not good at this. He doesn't need anything ever. I have even asked him multiple times and he doesn't have any ideas.
This is difficult. I would love to find some magic vitamin to help me. ...you know besides the first trimester of pregnancy. Ideas are welcome. Exercise, good food, good sleep,... really, I need to feel that I am attractive.
These are hard questions for me this chapter. :P
Depression when we were try to conceive is probably the main one we have faced in our marriage. Like Zac, Rick is calm and doesn't stress out.
ReplyDeletep. 282, I agree most of the time.
I have been working on not mowing the lawn. When we moved in, Rick really wanted a big yard. Yet, I'm the one who mows it. He mowed it Saturday :-)
Also, my husband does pretty much all of our vehicle and home maintenance.
I, really think, that our boys do a good job of filling in the husband/daddy is needed gap. Jason won't get in the big pool for me, but yesterday, for daddy, in he went.
Attractive helps...a better wardrobe has been a part of my change since having the boys. Exercise, sleep, good food, dates, good sleep, time to talk just the two of us.
I helped with the wardrobe! Zac brought up my summer stuff last week. I have really cute clothes. I am excited to wear them this summer after they have been hiding in your closet for two years.
ReplyDeleteYes, you did, and I am grateful. It is amazing what getting rid of the man jeans and belly button covering jeans and over sized, frumpy t-shirts got me!
ReplyDelete