"Without the adhesion of sex--the great release of sexual tension, the intimacy of becoming one over and over again--before long it's 'Have your attorney call my attorney.'" (p 196)
Ever been the stone?
What is the ideal backdrop for raising children?
Babies make you hurt. My husband never complained about waiting to have sex or having more sex after each baby. He is so patient. It is something I love about it. And something that also irritates me.
ReplyDeleteI would say a loving marriage is the best to raise children. Seeing your struggles, loving, attentive, ... I'm okay with your kids knowing you have sex but just not when you have sex. The girls are too little to care right now but I don't want them thinking that every time our door is closed we are having sex. But I also want them to know to knock.
Probably, in the infertility laden part of our marriage. There were times when I really wanted to just be left alone.
ReplyDeleteI would second Nicole. However, our boys are getting old enough "to care." Just ask our oldest what we are doing when the door is locked!
Oh you don't need to ask him. Sweetness just volunteers the information, "Dad locks the door when they are having fun. YEE-HAW!" That seriously is a quote from the five year old as he was trying to unlock the door with a butter knife.
ReplyDeleteWish I could just *Like* your comment. To true!
DeleteI love how you are proud of this story.
ReplyDeleteI would just like to add to this story for those of you reading along (Sarah, Marcy, and Emily) that Jessica and her husband were NOT in their bedroom having sex while Luke and I were having that particular conversation. Luke was giving me a demonstration of how he unlocks the door and this was part of his explanation.
Jessica has been so kind to inform me they have had sex while I was in the house before. ...yes, thanks so much for that. See this is why we are sister in Christ because who else could spend 9 hours with someone and then have their children cry when you say you are going home, never return the clothes that you borrowed, tell you they hate your hair cut, and buy you a gallon of milk every time they go to a grocery store?
Jessica's children would chant "no going home" when I would start to carry stuff out to the car. They would also call my oldest 'Naughty Nola.' And specifically recall laying on the couch hugely pregnant with Evie when all four kids and the dog were cuddled up with me. I am crazy enough to miss it. I pray for a crazy friend here.
All of the above is true.
ReplyDeleteAnd, when listed like that makes us both sound a little nuts.
Don't forget to mention 'Evil Evie.' Even before she was born.
And, I don't know that, "proud," is the right word for it. It is a true story. Still a little shocked at what my dh told my oldest about our door being locked. Just wait, a few more months and Nola will be able to share similar information with people. Won't you be so proud?
ReplyDeleteI believe you returned the favor a few hours later with what you and Zac were up to.
What did I say? I don't recall this part of the story. I believe you. I have attendance to want to say inappropriate things thanks to you. ;)
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