"We love to put labels on people, don't we?" (p 230)
"During these years of adjustment - when bodies are sagging and broadening, when life perspectives are adjusting - it's extremely important for you as a married couple to work toward a satisfactory sex life for both of you." (p 248)
"Did you know that the biggest increase in divorce rate is in the group of couples who have been married more than 20 years?" (p 261)
What do you look forward to doing when you are done being a full-time mommy?
From page 269, do you tell your spouse everyday that you love him?
From page 274, what actions have you done lately to show your spouse you love him?
We have to organize people somehow. Not all labels are bad. We have to protect ourselves from getting hurt. We shouldn't ignore bad feelings that are legitimate. You shouldn't get into the car with someone who has been drinking or leave your kids with someone who you feel is questionably responsible.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is work. Parenting is work. Everything good is work. I don't know how to instill this work ethic in my girls. Well...I work to have them be sisters and friends by making them spend time together. How do I get the whining to stop? Girls whine.
Divorce is scary to me. I remember our neighbors that I babysat for getting a divorce when I was in middle school. It made me so sad. They were the first people I knew to get a divorce. When the kids aren't there any more, people have trouble staying married. I think, that is also why so many couples get a divorce once their kids start elementary school.
...being done being a full-time mom seems so far away. I am really aching for a baby again. I want more kids at my house. ...volunteering at school. One day I would like to sell one painting. Just one. I would love to go back to school. I would love to get a doctorate.
p.269 yes. every morning before he leaves for work with a kiss.
p.274 We are going on a date tomorrow night! I set up trading babysitting with someone. Last Saturday night, I went over to watch her boys so tomorrow night at 8 Holli is coming over to watch the girls while we go out to dinner. Yeah! (I also took out the garbage, drove to Salem to get the cow we purchased, took the girls swimming after he got home from work and I am taking them out tomorrow so he can work on his paper.)
Ooo...I got some new lingerie when I went to the Goodwill Outlet. Fun to try new things I wouldn't normally purchase if they were $10 to $40 but for 50 cents, sure why not? My husband doesn't particularly care but it makes me more excited to look cute.
Labels for the most part really irritate me. And, probably, mostly because of the government policy in regards to schools funding.
ReplyDeleteI know you need to use your gut feelings to avoid being put in dangerous situations, but is that really labeling? I mean, being drunk is a label, but is not necessarily the same number of drinks for each person.
Another example, someone said she wouldn't get in an elevator with a black man. Really? I'm more concerned with, "How big is the man? Is he 5 foot or is he 6 foot 4?" "Is it one man or several men?" "Are there any women in the elevator?" "How many floors do I need to go up or down?" Because, honestly, I don't want to be on any elevator, so-lo, with any man but my husband.
I don't know, when you figure it out, let me know.
I can't imagine getting divorced around the 20 year mark. Ten years went way to fast and I still have a lot of stuff I look forward to doing with my husband.
When I am done being a full-time mommy, I would like to doula more. I look forward to being able to travel more with Rick and possibly doing more flying like we did before the plane got filled up with Little Men.
Yes, every afternoon when he heads out the door for work with a kiss.
I buy him Chips Ahoy cookies, pop, etc.
I cook him healthy meals.
It has been a while since I had to tell someone I was just uncomfortable by their presence. I remember talking about this in a class in college about how some teachers just make a difference because of their size or gender. We don't seem to be very open-minded about this idea in general.
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I cook healthy meals too! And I listen to him tell the same stories over and over again. :)
No...
ReplyDeleteMaybe when my boys are grown, but currently I am surrounded by little people all the time, I do not feel like I would love going back and getting my degree back in working order.
I really love teaching child birth. I love being with mamas as they welcome their little ones.
I love getting to visit with mamas before and after the birth.
Child birth is my niche.
Are you really surprised that I don't want to go back into the classroom?
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