Our next book is Unglued. Not for sure when discussion will begin. Let me know if you are in need of a few days/weeks to be able to get your hands on this book.
I have read this entire book. Liked it. Interested in discussing it. I actually didn't think it would be applicable to me at first but I am a stuffer at heart.
You know, you and I can read the book and others can join in without reading it. I love you but it would be nice to have more than just us in discussions all the time. Its a little like I am talking to myself. :) This is our warped journal- sex, anger and home care.
When are we starting? I need to talk. :) I am having feelings of others not liking me and enjoying the company of others; I don't even want to try to form relationships. This is rooted in my unbelief in the FREE gift of salvation.
You mean we HAVE to form relationships? Well, I'm apposed to that! :-) The gift is free. I know that is a hard thing to wrap your, "Am I good enough?" upbringing around. But, your upbringing doesn't change the fact that it is God's free gift to you. There are times that I really wish I could wipe out the lies from childhood about God's acceptance of me. And, I am finding with time and age that God is extending grace and making the lies less clear, more vague, harder to recall. Although, my heart still breaks when I think about the lies being spewed at some schools. God's love is a free gift. You become a saint when you accept the free gift. It is okay to cry. It is good to know that I don't have to be, "good enough." I am good enough because I am covered in the blood of my Savior and Lord. And, so are you. Love You Bunches!
Sunday, we did our accountability group. There was a person over for lunch so Em and I invited her to join us and listen in on our discussion because we are switching groups in January and she had previously asked about joining one. After about ten minutes in to the conversation, the woman says, "Is this how it always is? Because I am so sensitive I would be crying by this point." huh...that makes me feel horrible and like she doesn't want to be partners with me when we switch up groups. I asked Em if we were being harsh. I really didn't think we were. We were just being honest and loving with each other. We have been working through this book together and were discussing our growth and things we still need to work on.
I want to love on this person. And I WANT to be paired with her. I am still working on needing other people to like me and not always thinking what I have isn't good enough to give. I always want to give more.
Do you think if she had been in on the book (has she read the book?) or discussion for a longer time that she would not have seen it as making her want to cry? Context can be a huge help. Plus, if you two are building relationship, that should help with the honest you are comfortable with with each other. Also, you might have a crier on your hands, but you can handle it. Chance to practice extending grace.
She has not read the book and has never done our accountability group stuff. I think, she is extra sensitive too because she doesn't share very often and lets her husband do most of the talking. She was crying at worship gathering one Sunday because she was so happy. ...I am an under-the-surface crier too so I don't know if we are the best match up but she lives the closest to me...like five miles away is all so that is a huge incentive to be paired with her.
I also don't think she expect us to be into each other's business so much. I feel like society trains us to keep it to ourselves. I remember a girl I hung out with in college would always say, "that sounds like a personal problem" which meant I was over sharing my feelings. So this is where the keeping things to yourself to not expose other Christians and being honest gets murky for me. I want to learn to talk about myself but not others but not be boring. ...I can think of a few people who can do this but then I can think of a whole lot more people who I just think are boring.
I have read this entire book. Liked it. Interested in discussing it. I actually didn't think it would be applicable to me at first but I am a stuffer at heart.
ReplyDeleteYou know, you and I can read the book and others can join in without reading it. I love you but it would be nice to have more than just us in discussions all the time. Its a little like I am talking to myself. :) This is our warped journal- sex, anger and home care.
A-G-R-E-E! Minus, that I knew it would apply to me.
DeleteWhen are we starting? I need to talk. :) I am having feelings of others not liking me and enjoying the company of others; I don't even want to try to form relationships. This is rooted in my unbelief in the FREE gift of salvation.
DeleteYou mean we HAVE to form relationships? Well, I'm apposed to that! :-)
ReplyDeleteThe gift is free. I know that is a hard thing to wrap your, "Am I good enough?" upbringing around. But, your upbringing doesn't change the fact that it is God's free gift to you.
There are times that I really wish I could wipe out the lies from childhood about God's acceptance of me. And, I am finding with time and age that God is extending grace and making the lies less clear, more vague, harder to recall. Although, my heart still breaks when I think about the lies being spewed at some schools.
God's love is a free gift. You become a saint when you accept the free gift. It is okay to cry. It is good to know that I don't have to be, "good enough." I am good enough because I am covered in the blood of my Savior and Lord. And, so are you.
Love You Bunches!
Sunday, we did our accountability group. There was a person over for lunch so Em and I invited her to join us and listen in on our discussion because we are switching groups in January and she had previously asked about joining one. After about ten minutes in to the conversation, the woman says, "Is this how it always is? Because I am so sensitive I would be crying by this point." huh...that makes me feel horrible and like she doesn't want to be partners with me when we switch up groups. I asked Em if we were being harsh. I really didn't think we were. We were just being honest and loving with each other. We have been working through this book together and were discussing our growth and things we still need to work on.
DeleteI want to love on this person. And I WANT to be paired with her. I am still working on needing other people to like me and not always thinking what I have isn't good enough to give. I always want to give more.
Do you think if she had been in on the book (has she read the book?) or discussion for a longer time that she would not have seen it as making her want to cry? Context can be a huge help.
DeletePlus, if you two are building relationship, that should help with the honest you are comfortable with with each other.
Also, you might have a crier on your hands, but you can handle it. Chance to practice extending grace.
She has not read the book and has never done our accountability group stuff. I think, she is extra sensitive too because she doesn't share very often and lets her husband do most of the talking. She was crying at worship gathering one Sunday because she was so happy. ...I am an under-the-surface crier too so I don't know if we are the best match up but she lives the closest to me...like five miles away is all so that is a huge incentive to be paired with her.
DeleteI also don't think she expect us to be into each other's business so much. I feel like society trains us to keep it to ourselves. I remember a girl I hung out with in college would always say, "that sounds like a personal problem" which meant I was over sharing my feelings. So this is where the keeping things to yourself to not expose other Christians and being honest gets murky for me. I want to learn to talk about myself but not others but not be boring. ...I can think of a few people who can do this but then I can think of a whole lot more people who I just think are boring.