Developing a Girl Scout Mentality (or is it a Nike Mentality?)
Confidence Busters and Boosters
1) Burning the Candle at Both Ends
1) Reserving Energy for Life's Priorities
2) Neglecting Personal Hygiene
2) Showering and Shaving
3) Wearing Granny Panties
3) Wearing Comfortable. Sexy Lingerie
4) Fearing Intrusive Children
4) Claiming a Parental "Time Out"
5) Getting Sidetracked by Surroundings
5) Creating a Peaceful Private Sanctuary
6) Letting the Well Run Dry
6) Keeping Lotions and Potions Nearby
7) Feeling Like a Piece of Meat
7) Feeling Like a Sexual Goddess
So...
When are you busted?
When are you boosted?
Where have you found "comfortable, sexy lingerie"?
How does the whole only shaving the lower part of the leg play into "Showering and Shaving"?
What makes your bedroom a "Peaceful Private Sanctuary"?
Monday, August 31, 2009
Monday, August 24, 2009
Chapter 8
Experiencing the Big "Oh!"
She has a really good memory. This chapter begins with a story about her "abnormal" vagina.
The bases: 1st-French kiss, 2nd-nipple stimulation, 3rd-vaginal stimulation, Home Plate-intercourse. So, when you aren't in the mood. Since 1st base is connected to home, just have hubby go slowly around the bases when you aren't in the mood.
The clitoris has 8000 nerve fibers (p109).
G-spot stimulation can lead to "female ejaculation" (p 110).
You may take 20-30 minutes to reach orgasm (p 113).
See Chapter 7 microwave vs. crockpot anology.
"Stinking thinking" often leads to "sexual insecurities" (p 114).
Don't you hate it when that happens? Do you have regular insecurities that continue to creep up? Have you had insecurities in the past? What have you done to get rid of them?
She has a really good memory. This chapter begins with a story about her "abnormal" vagina.
The bases: 1st-French kiss, 2nd-nipple stimulation, 3rd-vaginal stimulation, Home Plate-intercourse. So, when you aren't in the mood. Since 1st base is connected to home, just have hubby go slowly around the bases when you aren't in the mood.
The clitoris has 8000 nerve fibers (p109).
G-spot stimulation can lead to "female ejaculation" (p 110).
You may take 20-30 minutes to reach orgasm (p 113).
See Chapter 7 microwave vs. crockpot anology.
"Stinking thinking" often leads to "sexual insecurities" (p 114).
Don't you hate it when that happens? Do you have regular insecurities that continue to creep up? Have you had insecurities in the past? What have you done to get rid of them?
Sunday, August 16, 2009
Chapter 7
Befriending the Body Image Bear
45% of women are deting on any given day (p 87)
Do you diet? What do you do to maintain a healthy weight without dieting? How long do your diets normally last?
Do you struggle with taking your husband's compliments at face value? (p 90)
What do you do when you doubt your sexual attractiveness to boost your confidence? (p 91-92)
Top 10 Positive Body Image Tactics
1 Rid your mind of sexual stereotypes.
2 Don't assume that your husband is pointing out your flaws every time he touches you.
3 Take a helthy inventory.
4 Focus on function, and be grateful.
5 Avoid unrealistic comparisons.
6 Choose your vocabulary wisely.
7 Choose your wardrobe wisely.
8 Learn to like what you see when you look in the mirror.
9 Learn to love who you see in the mirror.
10 Teach other women how to treat themselves.
Which of these is your weakest area? Which is your strongest area?
45% of women are deting on any given day (p 87)
Do you diet? What do you do to maintain a healthy weight without dieting? How long do your diets normally last?
Do you struggle with taking your husband's compliments at face value? (p 90)
What do you do when you doubt your sexual attractiveness to boost your confidence? (p 91-92)
Top 10 Positive Body Image Tactics
1 Rid your mind of sexual stereotypes.
2 Don't assume that your husband is pointing out your flaws every time he touches you.
3 Take a helthy inventory.
4 Focus on function, and be grateful.
5 Avoid unrealistic comparisons.
6 Choose your vocabulary wisely.
7 Choose your wardrobe wisely.
8 Learn to like what you see when you look in the mirror.
9 Learn to love who you see in the mirror.
10 Teach other women how to treat themselves.
Which of these is your weakest area? Which is your strongest area?
Sunday, August 9, 2009
Chapter 6
Harnessing Your Sexual Power
Hi Everybody,
Sorry, for the two week absence.
Heidi, how is the spoiling going?
Page 79, How do you work at creating the "ideal love"?
Page 80, How do you handle the media portral of the "I'm to tired" for sex wife?
Hi Everybody,
Sorry, for the two week absence.
Heidi, how is the spoiling going?
Page 79, How do you work at creating the "ideal love"?
Page 80, How do you handle the media portral of the "I'm to tired" for sex wife?
Monday, July 20, 2009
Chapter 5
Cutting Soul Ties That Bind
Favorite work of fiction?
Favorite film?
Favorite song?
Favorite poem?
Favorite fairy tale?
Do you "love too much"?
Ten steps toward sexual freedom:
1 Admit that your sexual identity needs reshaping.
2 Make your own list.
3 Identify the theme.
4 Learn the lesson.
5 Forgive others.
6 Forgive yourself.
7 Create a "no contact" rule.
8 Create a "no comparison" rule.
9 Keep your slate clean.
10 Forget intensity and focus on intimacy.
Favorite work of fiction?
Favorite film?
Favorite song?
Favorite poem?
Favorite fairy tale?
Do you "love too much"?
Ten steps toward sexual freedom:
1 Admit that your sexual identity needs reshaping.
2 Make your own list.
3 Identify the theme.
4 Learn the lesson.
5 Forgive others.
6 Forgive yourself.
7 Create a "no contact" rule.
8 Create a "no comparison" rule.
9 Keep your slate clean.
10 Forget intensity and focus on intimacy.
Monday, July 13, 2009
Chapter 4
Healing the Scars of Sexual Abuse
Early in my walk with the Lord, I really struggled with past sexual stuff (I hadn't allowed myself to call it rape. I blamed myself for getting sick and letting my guard down.) As I have grown and heard women talk about the awful things that happened to them and how they found the Lord through those struggles, I have been amazed how God can bring such strength out of women without making them hard.
With 1/3 of women experiencing some sort of sexual abuse in their lifetime (p 47), I wish women were more open to sharing their stories. Hearing other women speak of their experiences causes one of two reactions in me. One, "Wow! My experience is nothing compared to theirs. What am I whinning about?" Two, "If they aren't being dragged down and feeling unloved by God, then, why am I letting my past stop me from feeling God's love?"
The feeling of being unlovable is, I believe, so on the surface with many women. It is hard to imagen a loving God who would love us inspight of what has happened or that would allow what happened to happen if He truely did love us. Yet, as I look back on what happened to me (which in the big picture, I realize is nothing compared to what so many other women have been through) I see God's hand protecting me through it. He knew I needed to be broken before I would let Him in. He didn't allow me to get pregnant or get an STD. And inspight of my abuser saying that he was going to take me far away from my family where I would be souly dependent on him, God didn't allow that to happen either.
Again, I find myself in awe of God as Shannon shares her abuse and that of Lynn (p 45), Emily (p 46), Holly (p 46), and Carol (p 54).
As Shannon began discussing the Ten Steps Toward Healing From Sexual Abuse (p 49), I began to think of my mom. Before I was born, but after my parents were married, some guy grabbed my mom in the alley out back of their home in Sioux City, IA. He told her he just wanted to feel her breasts. That was all I knew of the incident until I asked her about it while reading this chapter. She said that when she talked to her priest after the incident he said it was her fault for the way she was dressed. How can my mom continue to be Catholic with a priest like that?
I do realize that slim balls come in all types of religious garb. Also, I believe, that although, my mom's religious practices look different from my own, that she talks to Jesus regularly and clings to Him for help, support, and love through all the struggles that get put in her path. Her strength, that I am only beginning to understand, is the foundation I was raised on.
How has sexual abuse impacted your life?
Would the steps Shannon offers in this book be a future resource for you if you or someone you know were sexually abused?
Early in my walk with the Lord, I really struggled with past sexual stuff (I hadn't allowed myself to call it rape. I blamed myself for getting sick and letting my guard down.) As I have grown and heard women talk about the awful things that happened to them and how they found the Lord through those struggles, I have been amazed how God can bring such strength out of women without making them hard.
With 1/3 of women experiencing some sort of sexual abuse in their lifetime (p 47), I wish women were more open to sharing their stories. Hearing other women speak of their experiences causes one of two reactions in me. One, "Wow! My experience is nothing compared to theirs. What am I whinning about?" Two, "If they aren't being dragged down and feeling unloved by God, then, why am I letting my past stop me from feeling God's love?"
The feeling of being unlovable is, I believe, so on the surface with many women. It is hard to imagen a loving God who would love us inspight of what has happened or that would allow what happened to happen if He truely did love us. Yet, as I look back on what happened to me (which in the big picture, I realize is nothing compared to what so many other women have been through) I see God's hand protecting me through it. He knew I needed to be broken before I would let Him in. He didn't allow me to get pregnant or get an STD. And inspight of my abuser saying that he was going to take me far away from my family where I would be souly dependent on him, God didn't allow that to happen either.
Again, I find myself in awe of God as Shannon shares her abuse and that of Lynn (p 45), Emily (p 46), Holly (p 46), and Carol (p 54).
As Shannon began discussing the Ten Steps Toward Healing From Sexual Abuse (p 49), I began to think of my mom. Before I was born, but after my parents were married, some guy grabbed my mom in the alley out back of their home in Sioux City, IA. He told her he just wanted to feel her breasts. That was all I knew of the incident until I asked her about it while reading this chapter. She said that when she talked to her priest after the incident he said it was her fault for the way she was dressed. How can my mom continue to be Catholic with a priest like that?
I do realize that slim balls come in all types of religious garb. Also, I believe, that although, my mom's religious practices look different from my own, that she talks to Jesus regularly and clings to Him for help, support, and love through all the struggles that get put in her path. Her strength, that I am only beginning to understand, is the foundation I was raised on.
How has sexual abuse impacted your life?
Would the steps Shannon offers in this book be a future resource for you if you or someone you know were sexually abused?
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