Now that the "100-yard dash" is over, onto the "marathon."
Men and women are different, some times VERY different.
Men need to be fulfilled, respected, and needed. Women need affection, communication, and commitment to family.
Have you ever found yourself "on your knees thanking God that your spouse is different from you"?
I find what I love most about my husband is also is what drives me crazy about him. I am very thankful he is patient and calm but he is that way all the time. Sometimes I would like to see some emotion or excitement.
ReplyDeleteHe is good at affection and is a great dad. I am still learning the communication part. You can't tell him important things before he goes to work, when he is tired, while he is concentrating on something or basically anytime the kids are awake. See, that doesn't leave a whole lot of time to mention something.
I have a love/hate relationship with our differences.
ReplyDeleteI love that Rick works in a detail oriented approach some times (i.e. trip planning, building his shed) and am totally driven crazy by it at others (i.e. camping).
I didn't realize how much of a, "jump in over my head," person I was till I met and married someone who is SO detailed oriented!
All that said, I am thankful in the long run because his projects turn out way better than my, "jumps," do or would have. Although, I do wish he would just jump sometimes and not worry so much about where we land.
Myer/Briggs pretty much clears is up with judging/perception. Yep. That explains it. :)
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I like to have things decided.
I appear to be task oriented.
I like to make lists of things to do.
I like to get my work done before playing.
I plan work to avoid rushing just before a deadline.
Sometimes I focus so much on the goal that I miss new information.
P:
I like to stay open to respond to whatever happens.
I appear to be loose and casual. I like to keep plans to a minimum.
I like to approach work as play or mix work and play.
I work in bursts of energy.
I am stimulated by an approaching deadline.
Sometimes I stay open to new information so long I miss making decisions when they are needed.
I do love talking to you in a quiet, intimate environment like this blog. But I would enjoy it if our friends joined in on the conversations.
ReplyDeleteYeah, I know. Sarah is reading, but her computer does not like posting. She has sent me 1 of her responses which I posted on here. Wish she would send me others.
ReplyDeleteThe judging/perception thing sums it up nicely.
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